Why is it hard to be by yourself?

By Tiani Dun

Yannis in the Paperbark forest by Tiani

I had the house to myself last night, and let me tell you -things were quiet. Personally, I relish these rare moments of peace in my busy household, but there have been many a times when I have been afraid to be left alone -afraid mostly, of where my thoughts would run to.

We spend all our time together, that when we are alone we aren’t sure what to do with ourselves. We often don’t stop to look around, to wonder. In moments of stillness, we play music to drown out the sounds of our own thoughts.

This is what has become of our generation, so consumed by our consumption of things, that we are conditioned to never be happy with where we are, now.

Not only do we over consume foods, clothing, and everyday items, but we are forever in an unconscious drive for more -one that is accelerated by advertising and our social media accounts.

We are flooded with images of things we don’t have that we should buy -new clothes, a better car, expensive bags, shoes. And when we have a moment of down time, we spend it scrolling through images of others -living their lives to their fullest (or so their Instagram posts suggest).

In fact, we are so connected to one another, that we are becoming disconnected.

Today, I’m challenging you to spend a day free from all this “connection.” When you have a spare moment, notice how you may instinctively reach for your phone for comfort. Notice this, and instead, sit with your thoughts. Ponder with them. Embrace them. Relish them.

Notice the amount of time you spend using technology unnecessarily. Notice this, and then embrace the copious amount of free time that you are suddenly blessed with when you give yourself a day off.

Maybe you have time to read that book you’ve been meaning to -or paint a new masterpiece. Maybe you’ll learn a new language, practice some music, or do some exercise. If you find you have absolutely nothing to do, then go for a walk down by the river or the beach.

I’m challenging you to find solace in the peace and quiet. Spend time with yourself, because you need it and you deserve it.  

“I once read that people who study others are wise but those who study themselves are enlightened”.”
― Robin S. Sharma 

Most importantly, remember to spend time in nature. The vastness of your surroundings will humble your soul. Even the contemplation of the smallest flower may bring you back to your inherent connectedness with the earth.

It was the many indigenous tribes who initially recognized this connectedness, who lived fully immersed with their environment. Yet today, we live dangerously far away from this life. We are so out of touch with nature, that we often forgive time outdoors to sit inside and instead stare at small screens. We watch movies or documentaries about people or animals in the natural world instead of actually living in it.

We forget that everything is interconnected, and that we are nothing without the plants and animals we consume, or the soils that provide them with nutrients.

We forget that the wind drives the currents, which drives the waves that we ride. We forget we are connected to the worms which fertilise our soils, the bees which create our honey and the birds which pollenate our plants. We forget that without all creatures on Earth play an integral role in supplying our food, medicines and shelter, and that without them, we would not survive.

“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
― Albert Einstein 

(What’s a motto? -Nothing, what’s a motto with you?)

By Tiani Dun

A Day’s End by Tiani

The Ocean Monkeys firmly believe that life’s purpose lies within connecting with and elevating other humans. We can glean so much from one another -which is why we have decided to build this website and raise awareness of the wonderful happenings around the Townsville region.

Our lives hold a plethora of opportunities for those who seek them. We have observed that by having important connections, one can achieve almost anything.  

Therefore, our motto is connectedness.

Connectedness doesn’t necessarily just mean with other humans, but with all sentient beings. Humans, animals, plants, trees, rocks, even bananas, we are all made up of the same thing.

In fact, did you know that we are 99% genetically similar to monkeys? 80% similar to cows? We even share around 60% of our DNA with bananas.

“Within you lies the sun, the moon, the sky and all the wonders of this universe. The intelligence that created these wonders is the same force that created you.”

Robin Sharma

As humans we often forget that we are inextricably linked to our environment. We are linked within a food web, albeit at the top, but we rely on the energy of the earth around us for survival.

In particular, we are connected to the ocean. If you think about it, we are all sea creatures. We evolved from the sea to walk on land, and still, without the sea we would not be able to survive. In fact, we are not so different from our pelagic relatives. We rely on the ocean for many things – the oxygen we breath, the food we eat and the habitat we require. Imagine an Earth without the ocean, it would probably be desolate, and look a bit like Mars.

Naturally, we humanoids are drawn to the seas. The Ocean Monkeys certainly are, and if you are reading this, then it’s likely that you are one of us, too.

Sina on Water by Tiani

Our motto is connectedness. And our vision is that if everybody lived in a way where we could reconnect with all life, then there wouldn’t be so much unhappiness in the world.

If you asked me what life’s purpose was, I would say it’s about finding connectedness and bringing it to life. It’s about discovering what you love and having the courage to do it, and bringing all beings together in this great, wonderful world.